Needle Phobia

Rita had a badly broken down tooth that was giving her pain. She knew she needed it out. She had come to her first appointment prepared for an extraction, with James, her boyfriend, for support. We agreed the tooth was too decayed to save and that an extraction would be wise, the sooner the better, before the pain and infection worsened.

Rita was relieved and grateful to find a dentist (me) willing to offer an emergency appointment and fix the problem. There was just one even bigger problem.

“I hate needles”, Rita said.

Rita was absolutely phobic about dental injections. At the age of 8 years, she had had an unexpectedly painful dental injection that had gone on for an excruciatingly long time. The dentist had continued despite her obvious shock and pain, and her mother had told her to “Get on with it”.

As an adult, Rita had all her previous dentistry carried out with general anaesthetic, where she could be ‘put to sleep’. We discussed all the options for treatment this time, weighing up the risks and benefits of each, including referral for similar support with sedation or general anaesthetic.

But Rita wanted her tooth out today. She had seen my website, and she wanted to improve her ability to receive dental care while conscious, an experience she trusted me to provide.

“Sure”, I said.

Rita, James, my nurse and myself, all trooped into the treatment room. Rita sat herself in the dental chair. She was literally shaking with fear. I deployed ‘Lambie’, one of the soft toys I use for just such occasions. With Rita holding Lambie tightly, my nurse patting Rita’s arm and James stroking her hair, I applied ‘magic jelly’, a topical anaesthetic gel to numb the gum before injection.

Building trust is a delicate and crucial process. Fear of prolonged or unexpected pain was a significant factor in Rita’s phobia. I asked Rita to indicate to me with a raised hand if she wanted me to stop, and promised to do so immediately, even if she just wanted to “rest, cough, swallow, or comment on the weather”.

I used the ‘tell, show, do’ technique to avoid surprises, informing and demonstrating to Rita at every stage what I was about to do. Some people prefer not to know or see what is being done for them, and that is respected. Other people like the reassurance of explanation and advance notice, and Rita clearly benefited from this.

Rita was encouraged to breathe, focus on wriggling her toes, and to feel a deepening relaxation spreading from her toes, up her legs, and throughout her body as she relaxed and breathed ever more deeply during her care.

Rita stopped shaking, and relaxed her rigid hold on Lambie. With the support of my team, I gently and slowly numbed Rita’s jaw with a local anaesthetic injection in her mouth. I spoke soothingly and hypnotically to Rita. The offending tooth was carefully delivered in two sections while James and my nurse held their posts supportively.

Once finished, I congratulated Rita and assured her that she would not miss the tooth at all, which we then examined carefully. Rita noticed how much bigger and more rotten it was than she had imagined. Rita also took the opportunity to look at and touch the anaesthetic needle, which she declared was much smaller and finer than she had thought. She was delighted to have coped so well with treatment, and said she now felt confident to have future treatment with local anaesthetic only, a great step forward in practical and emotional terms.

“I’m such a coward. I should have come much sooner”, Rita chastised herself.

I reminded Rita that her fear and avoidance was the result of the childhood trauma over which she had been powerless, not because of any weakness on her part, and that a phobia is a logical way to protect oneself until a sense of safety is assured.

Then I reminded Rita that she was not, in fact, afraid of needles. She looked at me, puzzled.

“A picture paints a thousand words”, I said, pointing to several beautifully wrought tattoos on her arms, silent tributes to her courage and determination.

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Please note that I have made changes to protect the identity of my client but this is a true story. I thank my client, who kindly consented to her story being shared. 

It's Complicated

“You need to have your wisdom teeth out. They’re deeply impacted and draining pus. I’ll refer you to the oral surgeons”, I said.

‘What does impacted mean?’ my client asked.

“It means they’re stuck. They haven’t got enough room to come through properly, you can’t clean them because they’re halfway under the gum, and you keep getting infections around them”, I said.

“They’re not bothering me. Why do I need to have them out?” my client asked.

“The infection is causing bone loss. If you leave them you could lose both the wisdom teeth and the teeth in front of them. And it’s causing halitosis,” I said tactfully.

“Halitosis?” my client asked.

“Bad breath”, I rephrased helpfully.

“You’re saying I have bad breath?” my client asked, clearly mortified.

“A little,” I said, “And it will go once the wisdom teeth are out”.

“How soon can I see the oral surgeon?” my client asked.

I grabbed my letterhead and completed the referral before my client could change his mind. He had not wanted to come to the dentist. He had merely asked about his teeth for an opinion. Now he was lying back in the dental chair with a plastic apron around his neck.

It was an unusual end to a first date. I had invited Stuart over for dinner. We had known each other as friends for years and recently decided to get to know each other in a romantic way. Since I live over the shop, popping downstairs for a bit of after dinner dentistry had seemed easy and logical. Stuart had not seemed so sure, but my enthusiasm overrode his objections.

The oral surgeon agreed wholeheartedly that Stuart needed to have his wisdom teeth out.

“She’s taking good care of you", he said, nodding his head towards me at the consultation.

Five months after our first date, Stuart lay back in a hospital gown and asked the nurse to reassure him again that the surgery was needed. The nurse assured him that on the overburdened NHS they only offered procedures that were absolutely necessary and no more.

The next time I saw Stuart, on his return from the general anaesthetic recovery room, he was dribbling, groggy and euphoric from potent painkillers.

“Marry me,” he slurred.

Stuart, separated from his wife, was still legally married. Tempted though I was, I could not take his wonderful offer seriously, nor take advantage of a man under the influence.

“You’re high”, I said.

Stuart’s recovery was complicated by dry sockets (loss of the protective blood clots) and infection. I loaded him up with local anaesthetic, more painkillers, antibiotics, and dressed his sockets with sedative seaweed poultices. I fed him soup and porridge. I bought him six box sets of ‘The Sopranos’, the only method that seemed to provide distraction from his pain.

For two weeks, he hated me, his girlfriend, and, for better or for worse, his dentist. He withdrew his marriage proposal.

Fortunately, Stuart survived his ordeal, and so did our relationship. One year later, I diagnosed and extracted his daughter’s infected wisdom teeth, this time with Stuart at the helm, talking her through the procedure.

The responsibility of treating family members weighed heavily upon me. I maintained professional integrity by asking myself if my care for my clients was what I would want for my loved ones. And whether I offered the same treatment to loved family that I do for my clients. This situation passed the test.

Years later, Stuart and his daughter still appear to love me. When I think of their wisdom teeth, I think of their loss as my gain. In the process, I gained a little more wisdom myself.